From Soft to Savage

2025: made it out alive.
2026: stop being a lil b*tch.

Yeah, I said it.

And no, I don’t mean beat yourself up or skip processing or pretend things didn’t hurt. I mean:

Don’t get stuck.

Stop abandoning yourself. And stop the never-ending search for more. You already have everything you need.

This year, I had to learn self-compassion, because I got into deep dark thoughts that took me to places I never want to go back to. But when I dive into anything, I tend to go all in, and I end up swinging to the other side of the spectrum. That compassion was necessary. It saved me. I learned to love and like myself, to give less f*cks about other people’s opinions, and to actually enjoy life and stay present.

The downside is that I lost my fire. I kept looking for answers, looking for something outside of myself to level up, until I realized I didn’t need any more input. I just needed to return to home, back to the savage self that lives inside of me. Unafraid, bold, and willing to forge my own path forward.

A quick story:

When I was in high school, girls weren’t allowed in weightlifting class. I fought for months to get in. But the moment that changed everything wasn’t emotional, it was practical. I pointed to a guy I knew I was stronger than and said:

I can lift more than he can, let me in class.

I wasn’t asking for a favor, I was pointing out a fact. I was already capable, already strong enough, already doing the work. I made that statement with that energy. Next thing you know, I was the first girl in weightlifting class.

The same principle applies to trading. If others can, you can.

Your skill isn’t the problem, it’s an old system problem, just like that antiquated boys-only weightlifting class. The problem is old rules, old voices, old limits that don’t match who you are anymore.

And the shift from amateur to pro is deciding you’re done negotiating with that.

2025 was a wild ride for me. I had moments of real progress and moments where I completely lost the plot. I chased relief instead of following structure. I got stuck in loops of compulsive trading. I built my account high and gave back some. And what became very clear is that trading only works when you’re regulated.

It wasn’t about grinding harder or staring at charts longer, it was about mind and body awareness. The market rewards a regulated mind and body. One grounded trading session will always trump 10,000 frantic hours in front of a screen. Once I understood that in my bones, everything changed.

So I’ve got two things I want to share with you as we kick off 2026.

1. Before you run into new goals or new plans, do this: Write down ten things that made you stronger in 2025. Not just wins or numbers, but the raw things too. The spirals you interrupted, the days you stopped instead of forced, the lessons you earned, the moments you showed up even when it was hard. This isn’t fluff. This is you reminding your brain that you’re building momentum, even when things felt messy.

2. I’ve joined groups, looked for support, and tried to find a place that actually fits, and most spaces weren’t built for what I needed. They’re built to get as many members in as possible, or they’re filled with people who don’t really trade, or there are huge discrepancies in levels and commitment, which makes it hard to get real support. What I’ve wanted is simple: a group where you can actually review trades, pre-plan setups, talk through levels, and get real feedback. So I’m creating that space. If you’re ready to get out of your own way, and this resonates, apply here.

You are where you are. And if you’re still here just know: You’re not behind, you know enough, and you can achieve anything you’ve set out to do. Let’s revive those lost goals and dreams, and make them come to life.

With love and grit 💞💪🏽,
Emanuela

P.S. Stop being a lil b*tch is basically paraphrased from my mom. Any time I go to her with an issue, looking for advice, reassurance, or just trying to soothe myself, she cuts straight through the story and gets to the point. And if anyone is struggling with anything, she relays that same sentiment. Doesn’t matter who you are or what you’re working on, she never holds back. She would never say those exact words, but the energy is always there. I always joke with her and say, “So you’re basically saying stop being a little b*tch,” and she always responds with wide eyes, “I would never say that,” and I’m like, “no, not in those words, but yes, you always say that”. 😂 

Happy New Year Y’all!